So, there was a recent poll about whether women would rather run into a bear or a man in the woods. Most women chose the bear. Why? Because men are rapists and scary...or....something.
*sigh*
Look ladies, I don't deny that rape is a real thing, but this weird pathological fear that women have of men, is WAY out of hand. If I had to guess your odds of a random man you run into the woods being a rapist, I'd probably say it's about 1-5%, still higher than it should be, not saying it can't happen, but the vast majority of men DO NOT WANT TO RAPE YOU. Even if we are attracted to you, most of us understand what consent is and value it. Most of us. Again, not denying there is a minority of people out there like that.
If I had to guess your odds of a bear encounter being dangerous, I'd probably say somewhere around 50-85%. I mean, I'm not gonna say a bear will always attack you. Maybe they will run away. But if they do attack, uh, your odds of survival probably isn't great.
With that said, let's actually find the actual stats. It's hard to find actual stats as far as men in general go but it seems to be about 6% on college campuses, and that's probably higher than your average "man in the woods" situation, since the demographics of college is gonna emphasize 18-24 year olds who are in their sexual prime and probably a bit more dangerous than on the whole. If you run into a man who is older, maybe has a wife, a daughter, odds are probably a lot lower. A little higher than I expected, but still. The vast majority of us are safe.
With bears I'm seeing the statistics of one in 2.1 million, but that is misleading. It seems to ignore the fact that most people won't even see a bear. Meanwhile human live with other humans and this the odds of being raped are cumulatively much higher simply because you have far more encounters with men and are far more likely to be put in a situation with men where eventually the odds do cash out.
If you ran into bears as much as you run into men in your life, odds are most of us wouldnt make it out of childhood and we'd go extinct. It's kinda like being stuck in a tank with a shark. Yes, your odds of being attacked by a shark are rare. Would I rather have to spend an hour in a room with a man (if i were a woman) or would i rather spend an hour in a shark tank with a shark? I mean, yeah the odds of being bit go up significantly under those circumstances. Same with bears.
Bears are wild animals, they're unpredictable, they're inherently dangerous, and if you do encounter one, I'd probably posit the odds of being attacked are significantly above zero. Most people want to flee from a bear the moment they see it, and people have to know what they're doing if they're in a situation with a bear.
A man, well, again, even if 6% of men are rapists, any individual encounter with a man is unlikely to produce rape, the reason rape statistics look so much worse is because people dont encounter bears as much as they encounter people of the other gender.
And yeah. Look, I aint denying that some men are scary, and rapists, but honestly, that's the reality of the stats. Most men arent rapists, most men arent dangerous, but because we encounter each other so much, stuff happens just applying the law of large numbers.
Oh, and then there's the whole idea of "well if a bear attacks me people will believe me, if a man does im not sure they would". Okay well would you rather be alive to be believed or would you rather die because a bear mauled you to death? Also, the reason people believe you with bears is because bears are wild animals that are much more powerful than humans and fricking dangerous. People don't always believe women with rape because there's a lot higher inherent trust factor between humans, because most encounters with other people aren't gonna be dangerous. You see? These weirdo perceptions are skewed so out there that it's just distorting the situation to an insane degree.
I just wanted to post about this because I've been seeing this memed on a lot and after researching it, it's dumb. Even more so, it's harmful. I feel like all men have to suffer sometimes because the fear women feel because SOME men are bad. We ALL have to walk around on egg shells, and women fear us for no reason, and honestly, idk, it kinda pisses me off. Because autistic as it is, I have a weird enough social approach as it is, and then for women to get so weird over this just makes actual gender relations like dating darned near impossible to me because im more concerned with being seen as "creepy" because i violated one of 290282392 unwritten rules than actually getting anywhere.
Oh, and false accusations exist. Remember the Rammstein crap last year? Yeah. I'm sorry, feminism does speak to legit issues sometimes, but sometimes, like in situations like this, it overcorrects massively and makes the problem of gender relations worse. And I know this isn't a politically correct take, but I'm so sick and tired of having to validate other peoples' irrational feelings and kow tow to this social justice nonsense where if i dont people act like I'm the bad guy. No. Most of us aren't dangerous, update your views of the world accordingly, and get over it. Sorry, not sorry. You should always be mindful of risks, but the same risks apply just walking down the street in a city with a decent amount of crime. I mean, be street smart, but this whole "men are scary and dangerous" thing isn't helpful, it's harmful at best, and it's just another stupid social justice circlejerk at worst. Sorry, not sorry.
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